“Despite the evidence of failures and loneliness, we cling to some highly ambitious ideas of what relationships should be like – even if we have never seen such unions in real life.”
“A wedding day signals a commitment by two deeply imperfect people to endure a range of arduous difficulties until the end. It is a vow to be pretty unhappy together for much of the time without blaming one another unfairly. The family and friends gathered will be aware of their own relationship sufferings, will admire the couple’s courage and wish them luck – while worrying (and knowing) that a rocky – and in many ways, devastating experience lies ahead of the couple.”
“The good lover needs to be a blend of therapist, PA, teacher, host, chef, nurse and escort. Asking someone to marry us turns out to be an impossibly demanding and therefore pretty mean thing to suggest to anyone we really want the best for.”
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